3 Mindset Shifts to Help You Achieve (and Keep) Your 2017 Goals + Gift

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HAPPY NEW YEAR 2017!

I hope that you all had a fantastic and memorable holiday season! I had a great time visiting my siblings in Seattle with my family and am now back getting into the groove of our New Year 2017. If you are like me, the holidays gave you some time to reflect on this last year (both the good and the bad) and in that pause you thought about some things you would like to change in your life to make it better.

Maybe in the past it has been hard for you to stick with the goals you made and you might be feeling a little pessimistic about your actual ability to achieve this year’s goals. Maybe you even say to yourself, “Why bother, I haven’t been able to…
…lose that last 20 pounds and keep it off..”
…be more productive with my time…”
…get back to the gym on a regular basis…”

You are not alone.

DID YOU MAKE A RESOLUTION BUT ARE DOUBTFUL YOU WILL ACHIEVE IT?

I want to share with 3 SPECIFIC MINDSET SHIFTS that will help you achieve (and keep!) your goal(s) this year…

Plus, I am giving you a FREE Mp3 download to help you create a VISION OF REALIZING YOUR GOAL.

Did you know that 92% of people making 2017 New Year’s resolutions will fail at realizing their New Year’s goals?

I know that statistic may seem depressing but it doesn’t need to be. It just means that the way we all have been going about “making change” isn’t working the way we wish it could.

The key is to change the way you make changes—BEFORE creating the change you want.

SHOCKING: 88% OF YOUR BRAIN COULD CARE LESS ABOUT YOUR GOALS AND DREAMS!

As a hypnotherapist, my soul mission in life is to help people achieve their goals in order to make their lives healthier and more productive. The main challenge that I see people struggle with isn’t that they are hopeless, or lazy, or a failure at life. My clients are highly functioning, smart and intelligent people!
The main challenge you face with successfully achieving your resolution and keeping it going long term is getting the 88% unconscious part of your mind that resists change on board with the 12% conscious part of your mind that made your New Year’s resolution.

REVOLUTION VERSUS RESOLUTION—Use 100% of your Mind

You can easily learn to use your mind more effectively and engage 100% of it in making the changes you seek for the New Year. Don’t just create a resolution—go for a REVOLUTION where you are engaged deeply in creating a powerful breakthrough in your life. SHAKE THINGS UP—don’t just achieve the goal—keep it once you get it.

In order to take action, we need to start where action begins—IN YOUR MIND. I would like to share with you 3 mental shifts to engage your unconscious mind (the stubborn and resistant 88%) and make your resolution a REVOLUTION in personal achievement.

3 MENTAL SHIFTS TO HELP YOU
ACHIEVE AND KEEP YOUR NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTION

MIND SHIFT 1: DON’T “DO” YOUR GOAL—BECOME IT

Challenge: 12% vs 88%:
Chances are that when you made your New Year’s resolution, only your conscious mind (the 12% part) wanted the change. Your conscious mind was thinking:

  • “Losing weight” — great idea!
  • “Be more productive”  — awesome thought!
  • “Get to the gym 5 nights a week”—sure, love the concept!
  • “Don’t smoke anymore” —  totally makes sense!

So, rationally we are on board with making the change—great!  But wait, when we “try” to “do the thing”, it seems like just that—this thing that exists outside of us that we are trying to do. It may feel forced or like it’s not real or going to last and that is because the other 88% of the mind (the subconscious part) is not yet on board with the change.

You may get some short-term success with trying to lose weight, being more productive, or exercising, but because your mind is wired with beliefs, habits and self-talk that support your seeing yourself as someone who struggles with weight, wastes time, and doesn’t exercise consistently, the force of your unconscious will pull you back into what it has defined you as.

Mindset Shift to 100%:
Look at people who have really made big changes in their life.  My guess is that you will find one thing that they have in common. These people didn’t just try to change something.  They became one with their goal.  In other words, they stopped trying to make the change from the ‘outside–in’ by doing. They made their transformation by becoming the change they wanted:

  • The weight struggler became a master of weight management.
  • The time waster became a master of time management.
  • The couch potato became a man living an active lifestyle.
  • The smoker became a non -smoker.

When we become one with the goal, it changes how we see ourselves in the world. We need to change our beliefs and behaviors to embody the change and that takes imagination. Beliefs, habits and imagination all exist in our subconscious mind.  For instance, when we become a master of weight management, in a second we can let go of all our limiting beliefs that we’ve carried around as a weight struggler and become an apprentice of mastering our weight.

When we are an apprentice of releasing weight, managing our time, exercising consistently—we cannot fail—we can only learn how to get better at our lifestyle change.  This engages our unconscious in many ways:

  • Our belief system now sees us as a learner and not a struggler.
  • Our emotions are elevated because we start filtering ourselves through a more powerful lens—not as a failure but a learner becoming a master.
  • Our habits now can slowly transform as we methodically focus on improving step by step into the new year—becoming more of who we set out to become bit by bit.

Action Steps: Become one with your Goal

  1. Think of the change you would like to become.  Now instead of thinking of it as this thing you need to struggle with to overcome—think of becoming your goal. To do this you might ask yourself—“In order to make this change—what do I need to become a master of??”
  2. Commit to your apprenticeship and mastery. Commitment is a powerful force—don’t just “try”—commit to your learning process as a lifelong journey.
  3. Use a daily mantra to continue to condition your subconscious with your new role in life. Mantras are basically self-hypnosis. By using your mastery mantra you can continue to keep your new mastery mindset focused forward on change instead of reverting back to your old belief system.
  • “I am now an apprentice of weight mastery—moving in the direction of achieving my ideal weight long term.”
  • “I am now an apprentice of high level productivity—I am moving in the direction of mastering my time a little more every day.”

MIND SHIFT 2: MAKE YOUR GOAL ALLURING–NOT OVERWHELMING

Challenge 12% vs.88%:
There is nothing worse for your mind than an unreasonable goal. I look back at New Year’s goals from the past—over 20 years ago (I keep them in a box in my desk as mementos) and I laugh at my overzealous list.  Often, these goals were not only unrealistic—to achieve the goals, my life would have been a mad and crazy whirlwind of work, deprivation and a living hell–usually I would get overwhelmed and just give up and go back to my old patterns.

When a client comes to me with a goal they haven’t been able to achieve, it’s often because they have made that goal too unrealistic and too overwhelming for their mind to take on.

  • “I want to lose 20 pounds this month”
  • “I want to finish my screenplay, finish my last 3 years of taxes and clean my desk by Valentine’s Day!” (Did I mention the screenplay is an idea written on a cocktail napkin and the taxes are a heap of papers under the desk that is surrounded by more clutter?)
  • “I want to exercise 90 minutes a day, 6 days a week” (said by a client who had not exercised at all—save walking their dog—for the last three years)

Our minds are easily overwhelmed these days. Our digital, online, wired world has made a lot of things easier but has also increased the speed of life at a phenomenal rate and our poor brains are doing overtime to keep up.

If you overwhelm yourself with a to-do list that seems unreasonable and—more importantly—not alluring to your subconscious—your mind will reject it and you will find yourself doing one of the following:

  • Procrastinating getting started…
  • Getting started, getting overwhelmed, and giving up….
  • Forgetting to get started in the first place…

Mindset Shift to 100%:
The impulse to create big overwhelming “to do” lists often comes from this part of us that I call the inner critic. This is the part of us that that is highly critical and thinks we need to be super human just to be “okay”. This inner critic’s voice doesn’t come from you originally—it is a combination of parents, people from your life, culture etc.

My life changed when I got real with myself and started turning down the volume on the expectations of my inner critic. Instead of trying to fit a round peg (me) into a square hole (my inner critic’s expectations) I began by tailoring my expectations to my round peg reality and working effectively with myself.
I cultivated an inner coach’s voice. Unlike my inner critic that believed I had to accomplish huge things just to be loved, my inner coach helped guide me towards doable and achievable goals that I could master and build my confidence with.

One powerful strategy that I learned to achieve my goals is to create a very specific and emotionally charged vision of achieving the goal that I was moving towards. I use vision work a lot with clients and in my workshops because it works so well.

Research shows that weight strugglers who created future visions of themselves and focused on those visions daily were more likely to pass up fattening foods.

Creating a vision uses our imagination plus our emotions—two very big parts of our subconscious mind. When we can see it, feel it, hear it and feel the good emotions of achieving it, we begin to use 100% of our mind to align making that vision come to fruition. This also helps you with the idea of becoming one with your goal.

Action Steps: Create A Strong Vision

  1. Turn down the volume on your inner critic and turn the volume up on your inner coach. Ask yourself if your New Year’s resolution is loving, reasonable and attainable with reasonable amounts of focus and effort. If your goal feels overwhelming– adjust it and find a goal with your reasonable and rational inner coach that feels more like a round peg that will fit in your round hole.
  2. Create a vision of you attaining your goal that feels real, specific and alluring. Creating a bland and boring vision of your goal isn’t going to cut it—you need to excite yourself, inspire yourself to become MORE OF YOU! I think when we strive to become more of who we feel we were put on this planet to be, it is usually the most motivating starting point for creating an evolution and will endure.
  3. Download and use this FREE GIFT Vision Technique. This session walks you through the steps of creating a powerful vision of you achieving your goal.

MIND SHIFT 3: HAVE SPECIFIC “VISION POINTS” AS STEPS TOWARDS YOUR OUTCOME AND REVIEW DAILY

Challenge 12% vs 88%:
One of the biggest obstacles to achieving your New Year’s resolution may simply be that your initial enthusiasm fizzles. After some initial effort, we may see some results but the big pay-off seems too far away and we begin to lose:

  • Our initial head of steam–
  • Our focus as day to day life intervenes
  • Our faith in our ability to follow through

Life gets in the way of our good intentions—especially if we are only using the 12% conscious mind. Remember the unconscious 88% of our mind wants things to stay exactly as they are. It doesn’t really like change. Atrophy sets in and we go back to the status quo not because we are lazy but because we haven’t engaged our mind effectively.

Mindset Shift to 100%:
One way to work more powerfully with the vision of your goal that you create is to create more short term milestones—what I call “Vision Points” along the way.

These divide the journey of achieving your goal into more doable chunks. This makes it easier to stay focused on and give your 100% mind something tangible to work towards and then the confidence and rewarding feeling of reaching the milestone—one step further in the journey.
-Losing twenty pounds becomes releasing five pounds each month.
-Being more productive becomes completing 3 do-able tasks per day
-Exercising more becomes starting with 20 minutes 3 times a week and builds ten minutes each week.

Not only does breaking it down into milestones help but so does focusing on your short-term vision point help your unconscious mind stay focused and excited.

Action Steps: Break Down Your Vision Into Reachable Steps

  1. Divide your overall goal into short term milestones—either by time or an achievement.

For instance, with weight management:

  • 30-day vision points—every month forward marks your journey
  • Weight release vision points —every 10 pounds (or whatever you choose)
  • Fitness vision points—running without being winded, walking a half marathon etc.
  1. Think about your overall long-term vision daily and then focus on the specific vision point that you are working towards. This is great to do in the morning when you are laying in bed.
  2. Download and use this FREE GIFT Vision Technique. This session walks you through the steps of creating a powerful vision of you achieving your goal.

SUMMARY:
There you have the 3 Mind Shifts that will help you achieve and keep your 2017 goals.

  1. MIND SHIFT 1: DON’T “DO” YOUR GOAL—BECOME IT
  2. MIND SHIFT 2: MAKE YOUR GOAL ALLURING–NOT OVERWHELMING
  3. MIND SHIFT 3:HAVE “VISION POINTS” AS STEPS TOWARDS YOUR OUTCOME AND REVIEW THEM DAILY

When you take these actionable steps towards changing your life for the better, you will not only reap the benefits of what you wanted out of your goal but you will also feel more confident in moving forward and achieving other goals in your life as well.

You can apply this VISION session to any goal—weight or otherwise.

Here again is the Mp3 download I am offering you to use for FREE as my New Year’s gift to you. This Mp3 is a very helpful VISION CREATING EXERCISE that will:
  • Help you manifest a clear vision to manifest
  • Give you the ability to create vision points along the way towards you goal
  • Unlock the belief in yourself to achieve your goals

Once again, Happy New Year 2017—may this year bring you and those that you love health, happiness and also bring you closer to being more of your best YOU!

Oxox
Rita Black

Director, Shift Hypnosis and Motivational Resources LLC
ALONE WE DIET–TOGETHER WE SHIFT

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